How to Avoid a Sudden Breakup in Your Relationship

Sudden Breakup

Any relationship or marriage can result in a serious problem; regardless of how long a couple has been together. It is rare, however, for couples to go through a sudden breakup, without any kind of warning signs.   Couples part in most cases because of issues that have been at play for some time. Being aware of the signs of these issues and the likelihood of an impending breakup can be quite valuable. You can unfortunately find yourself spiraling into a divorce or separation, unless you know and take action on the signs that a crisis in your relationship is looming.

The following six signs are indicators that your relationship is coming apart and is in need of extra effort on your part to save it.

1) Infidelity is rarely acceptable in a relationship. The significance of the damage done by one partner having a relationship outside the marriage just can’t be underestimated. Couples sometimes work they way thru this, but the truth remains that infidelity if often a sign that there are other, more fundamental relationship problems at play.

2) If sexual activity occurs rarely or not at all, it is often a sign, like infidelity, that there are other relationship problems lurking below the surface. Sex is a bit of the “glue” that keeps a couple together, requiring emotional intimacy to initiate, but also providing an added emotional and physical closeness to the relationship. It satisfies often different needs for men and women, but is a key component of a healthy relationship.

3) Physical, sexual, or verbal abuse is an obvious problem with a relationship. It is often, however, tolerated by the person being abused. The abuser may show great remorse, or have a sad tale of why he/she acts in an abusive manner. The bottom line, though, is that it is damaging to a relationship and should not be tolerated.

4) When either or both partners play the “blame game”, criticizing the other for things that go wrong, it is damaging to the relationship. Relationships will run into problems of every sort, whether from outside or from within their relationship. Blaming your partner, rather than working with your partner to weather the storm of difficulties you face, will just lead to emotional distance between you.

5) A red flag is time you spend on separate activities in your time away from work. Do you each “do your own thing”, living with each other, but not really spending time with each other. If a healthy balance between the things you do together and the things you do individually isn’t there, you may be drifting apart.

6) Significant unresolved conflict is sometimes hard to detect but can be very destructive. If a conflict arises and a couple can communicate effectively to resolve it, they can move on without emotional baggage to the next challenge. If one or both partners, however, feel that they were unfairly treated, ignored, or treated with disrespect, they sometimes choose to say nothing, and let the issue fester. The other partner may not even know the issue is festering. Eventually, however, it comes to the surface, causing more trouble to the relationship than the original issue warranted.

Don’t ignore these signs of relationship problems. They just don’t quietly fade away. Unfortunately, they often start multiplying, with one issue leading to another. Take action on your relationship when these signs appear, so that you can use the strength of the relationship to solve it. Wait too late and you won’t have a partner willing to work things out.

Many couples cope successfully with serious relationship problems like a sudden breakup. You can too.

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