How Do I Get my Wife Back – A Few Do’s and Don’ts
How Do I Get my Wife Back? Some advice…
So… you and your wife got divorced, you’ve moved on, she has her new life, and you have yours. But what happens if you decide you want her back? How do you get her back? Before you charge ahead, I have a few Do’s and Don’ts to offer, some from my own experience:
1. Don’t come crawling back to her like a beaten dog. You certainly need to apologize (without excuses) for any wrongdoings of yours. You also need to express regret for the harm you have caused her. But all this can be done without losing her respect for you. Groveling at her feet will probably be amusing for her – but won’t be a good move for you!
2. The old candy and flower routine won’t work either, especially if you didn’t do that sort of thing while you were together. She’s going to be suspicious of you for quite a while, so don’t try this until you’re more confident that she has regained some affection for you.
3. What will work, if you’re lucky, is a balanced, two-pronged approach. First, be sensitive of her feelings. Listen to her without giving her endless advice on how to fix everything in her life. Learn to understand where she is in the relationship so you’ll know when to back off and when to engage her further. Secondly, and this is almost the opposite of sensitivity, is to be a solid protector, provider, or advisor for her. She needs both: someone who understands her and someone who will be her rock.
4. Don’t think that taking out another woman to make her jealous will help.
5. Unless you are absolutely sure she is receptive, don’t contact her all the time via the phone, email, texting, or tweets. This is almost guaranteed to irritate her.
6. Do seek professional help if you are depressed or find it difficult to carry on with your normal work and recreational life. A divorce can be one of the most traumatic events in a person’s life. It’s sort of like falling into a deep hole. It will be dark and miserable for a while and you just have to find a way to crawl out. There’s no shame in seeking help.
You’re taking on a big challenge in trying to re-connect. Give yourself some credit for giving it your best shot.
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