We live in a highly mobile, connected, and agile society, which provides us with many advantages.  It’s stressful to our relationships though.  You are not alone if you feel that the spark and intimacy of your relationship has faded.  The following is a little free advice on relationships and how we can best protect them from the pace and chaos of our lifestyles.
Long-term, solid relationships generally have at least one thing in common.  They began with the physical and emotional passion of early love and transformed over time into a mutually respectful, quiet form of love, in which the partners respect each other and accept each other’s faults.   The pressures of our current lifestyles threaten, for some of us, this quiet form of love.   Some simple suggestions may help:
1. Find a way to increase the number of activities you and your partner do together.  This requires some give and take, but is extremely valuable.
2. Make a list of your partners negative and positives from your perspective.  Trade the list with your partner’s list of your traits.  Discuss the lists and act to work on the negatives your partner sees in you.
3. Eat your meals without TV.  You’ll be amazed at how much there is to talk about if the TV isn’t there to put you both in a zone.  If doing this “cold turkey” isn’t possible, agree on at least several nights a week.
4. Don’t go to bed angry.  Conflict is inevitable between couples and isn’t always resolved without emotion or hurt feelings.  A sincerely expressed “I Love You” exchanged each night is a way to either signal that all is well between you, or even, when it gets a little rocky, “all is not well now, but we’ll work it out together tomorrow”.
Try these simple things out.  It’s never too late to rebuild that closeness and comfort you deserve in a relationship.

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